By Azuka Onwuka
There is a group of dangerous male-hating women on social media pretending to be feminists. They are bitter, bloodthirsty misandrists who hide under the cloak of championing female rights. Some are divorcees and cannot get over it; some are unmarried and unmarriageable; some were dropped by men because of their bad traits; some assumed they had a relationship when there was none; some grew up in violent homes and saw their mothers abused by their fathers; some were sexually molested and still suffering the trauma; some are mentally or psychologically unstable.
These women create different groups on social media, where they teach impressionable women the best ways to kill their husbands or boyfriends. They teach these naive women how to deal with men and show them the stuff they are made of. Even on their social media walls, they spit fire and regularly call men the scum of the earth that should be dispensed with. The pliable women lap up everything they hear and start seeing all men as monsters that should be dealt with. Their male partners become opponents and enemies that should never be given an inch of space. Such partners become guilty until proven innocent. Soon, their relationships start to crack and eventually pack up.
Some of the gullible women even take it to the next level of actually planning how to eliminate their husbands. Some put the plan into action by stabbing their husbands or poisoning them. Then, they get a life sentence or death sentence. It suddenly dawns on them that they had been deceived to take an extreme action. Even when they succeed in getting a light sentence, their life is ruined for life. They have the tag of murderer for the rest of their life. They live with the trauma and bloodguilt. Some become deranged later in life or get into substance abuse or even commit suicide.
Ironically, when they succeed in killing their husband, the misandrists urge them on, celebrate them and warn men that this is just the beginning. The men are blamed for deserving to be killed because of the allegation of infidelity against them or abuse of their wives. How can a human being support a woman stabbing a man who is asleep to death? Paradoxically, if such a man were to be their son or brother, they would argue that he does not deserve to be killed by another woman for whatever reason and would do everything possible to get back at the woman. The same women are those who raise dust at any mention of DNA test on children to ascertain their paternity.
The sad part is that misandrists are women with no scruples or morality. They believe that a woman should use what she has to get what she needs. They believe that marital fidelity is for the naive women. They are not asking for gender equality or equity; they are asking for gender domination of men by women. When they complain about patriarchy and want it eliminated, they simply want it replaced with matriarchy. They form gangs like wolves patrolling the social media space and looking for people to pounce on for not sharing their anti-male views. Any woman who does not hate men is their enemy.
This set of acerbic women has made it look as if feminism is evil. But such people must be appropriately tagged “misandrists,” so as to differentiate them from feminists. Feminism is a noble cause that seeks to empower women and remove all the barriers that put women at a disadvantage. Because men were in charge of affairs from the beginning of time, they made rules and policies that denied women many basic rights. For example, for many centuries, women could not vote or own property or go to school or bail detained people. It was people that fought for these rights to be given to women. And many of these people were men. Therefore, true feminists can be male or female.
Many countries like India, Pakistan, Germany, and the United Kingdom have even made it possible for women to be country leaders. And many of them have even performed better than men. So, women should not be held down by any handicap. However, physiologically, men are different from women, and are suited for certain roles. For example, despite all the attempts to swap roles, to get a child into the world, the man is naturally created to impregnate the woman, while the woman is naturally created to be pregnant and breastfeed the baby when born. None of these roles is inferior or superior. Rather, they are complementary.
Therefore, the relationship between married couples should be complementary rather than antagonistic. Those with failed relationships should not make every woman believe that men are enemies to women. No. Men are partners to women. Just as men disappoint women in relationships and marriages, so also do women disappoint men.
Whoever gets hurt should heal and forge ahead. Nobody ever stops using water because the person’s father or mother drowned. The same water that drowns some people also gives life to people. That is why someone will say that a glass is half-empty, while another will say that the same glass is half-full. It is all about perspectives. It is the difference between negativism and positivism.
Most of the women who end up bitter against men are the agents of their own misfortune. Some women see certain men with signs of reliability, commitment, honesty and the like, but they reject them and embrace men with clear signs of dishonesty, unreliability, and non-commitment but with the gift of the gab. They see that such men cannot be trusted with women, are always involved in shady deals, and are always filled with windy tales. But they prefer such men because they are “happening dudes.” Those who warn them at that point about such men and even present evidence of past acts of fraud or deceit are tagged “enemies of progress” and ignored. Their desperation to get married and adopt the title “Mrs” blocks their sense of judgement. They convince themselves that once they are married, they will panel-beat their man into what they want. Soon, such men fleece them of all they have worked for and disappear, leaving them high and dry with their hope of marriage dashed. They feel bitter and start the chorus: “All men are the same; all men are evil.” But in truth no man hurt them; it was merely their desperation that did them in.
This type of woman then moves around with such bitterness, infecting other gullible women, and ruining the joy of the world. They teach other women why they should not allow their husbands to take them for granted, because “if you give men a yard, they will take a mile.” Some of the gullible women introduce undue aggression in their relationships and destroy relationships that had no problem. Then they all call themselves feminists, not knowing that they are misandrists that contribute nothing positive to the progress of women in the world. Ironically, the moment a gullible woman loses her man through her indiscretion, one of these so-called feminists steps into his life and takes him over, and starts giving the man all the “tender loving care” she spoke against.
Any woman of any age who wants to have a happy life and marriage should flee from such women like the coronavirus. They have nothing positive, valuable, or sweet to add to anyone’s life or to the fate of women in the world.
Culled form Punch